BRIEF ARTICLE OVERVIEW: Flexing your assertive muscles commands respect. The old adage, treat others as you want to be treated, still holds true. Developing coping mechanisms is how some pre-op weight loss surgery patients deal with demeaning treatment. Accelerate the assertiveness learning process by seeking out opportunities to practice and experiment with these newly acquired skills. And, even if you don’t know how to be assertive, “act” like you do.